force people into acting peaceful

“We’re trying to force people into acting peaceful by not giving them any alternatives. We are depriving people of the opportunity to learn and practice conflict management skills. We’re churning out individuals who are insecure, adrenalized at the least sign of hassle, and plagued by an inner voice that calls them cowards. And then we call it “shocking” when they overreact or snap, and petty conflicts escalate unnecessarily.” - God’s Bastard Blog

Comment: Like any negotiations to achieve positive results you always come to the table with a variety of options, options that will allow all parties to save, “Face,” and provide them decisions contributions to the entire process. The ability to recognize the group dynamics involved making for recognition to status, etc. allows everyone to talk. Ignoring or demanding that these factors don’t matter and are counter-productive simply shuts down the options available leading to frustrations and closing off any viable productive and positive paths to all concerned.